Saturday, November 30, 2013
13.entry: Stress - the modern killer
“You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway.
Hello, hello my dearest readers, so today I will be discussing the moder issue, which is sadly present in all of our lives and we must learn to deal with it. Why have I chosen this problem you might think? Well no matter how calm I am now, there was a time when stress was causing me so much problems that my whole existence was painful. So let me tell you my story.
It was 4 years ago and it was my first year in college. I didn't do so well then, because lets face it, economy isn't something that is super interesting and I barely made it to class each day, because I was just too easy going about school. I mean easy going as in lazy and reluctant to learn something new. So the year passed and I had done only 3 out of 10 exams, and I needed 8 to go to the second year of college. It was the begging of the summer and I was still careless about the exams. Then in the middle of my summer vacation when I was having so much fun at some Croatian island it hit me. I needed to do 5 more exams in September to pass, and I was nowhere close to learning and studying and I had only 1 month of summer left to do all that. Then all of a sudden there was this tingly feeling in my lower arms and knees, first I thought it was because I was tanning to much and I was just sun-burned. But then I started to feel exhausted and tired, but I couldn't sleep. It was the worst feeling ever. It is like you have no control over your body and the feelings of tingliness and tiredness just wouldn't go away. So I started worrying about that and I called my mother and told her what was happening to me. And so she called a doctor and the doctor said that is common for stress. I was shocked, I was having fun, partying, enjoying the beach and the sea, how can I be under stress right? But the answer is, it all came after me, the whole studying and exams, they were with me, on my vacations. i was devastated, then I started worrying so much I was having problems breathing and was close to a panic attack. There was nothing I could do. After I came home it got better, because I took a book and started learning. So I knew I was doing the right thing and the stress slowly faded away. It all ended on 28 of September when I finally passed the 8th exam and I was officially in the second year of college. But the summer for me was ruined. Because of the damn stress and because I couldn't handle it. It was all my fault. I know that now. I could have handled it better if only I would know how. I do now.
So that is my story of stressful time I had and my first real encounter with stress. I promised myself I never want to feel that again so I started taking some steps to get better and to learn about stress and how to prevent it.
We all have stress and it is not necessarily a bad thing, because it can motivate us, but too much of it, constantly, can be our demise. So I beg of you, if you worry to much and stress about things, well don't, because it will only bring you pain and destruction. Stress should be a powerful driving force, not an obstacle.
Life is so much more then worrying about stuff. Life is to be enjoyed every minute of ever day. I still have to remind myself about that from time to time. But I am calm; I am at peace with myself and the decisions I make. Because if you will worry about things it wont help you, believe me I have been there. If you have a problem, either solve it if you can, but if you cant then you should not worry. I always say to myself: "We will cross the bridge when we get there." That doesn't mean you shouldn't plan or be careless, it just means that you should not worry about something you have no influence on. My mother was always worried when I got my driver`s license and I was gone for a long time, that something bad happened to me. And then one day she said to me; "Look I trust you and I know I shouldn't worry, because no matter what, there is nothing I can do, to prevent bad things happening on the road when you are away." So here it is kids, a lesson from my mother that I still remember. You can not prevent what you can not predict! So why worry about it.
I know many of you worry about passing exams and so on. I honestly do not anymore. Because either I study a lot and I am prepared so I give it my best and if I shall pass that would be great, but if I fail, well there is always a next time, or I don't study and I still do my best, but I know it is my fault and I am the one who has to live with it. Again, life is there to enjoy it, and there is no hurry, no rush, everything in its own time. Remember that. Everything you do, you are accountable for. So you are either your own victory or destruction. And as long as you can live with that, it is OK. You create your own destiny and you decide on your own fate. But about that I shall write in my next post. So stay tuned for more information about out fate and destiny and who is in charge of our life.
The last thing I want to pass onto you guys is that, really do not worry too much. And if you are under stress learn how to control it and life happily ever after, because that is what life is all about - being happy.
“I promise you nothing is as chaotic as it seems. Nothing is worth your health. Nothing is worth poisoning yourself into stress, anxiety, and fear.”