Saturday, November 30, 2013

13.entry: Stress - the modern killer

“You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway.

Hello, hello my dearest readers, so today I will be discussing the moder issue, which is sadly present in all of our lives and we must learn to deal with it. Why have I chosen this problem you might think? Well no matter how calm I am now, there was a time when stress was causing me so much problems that my whole existence was painful. So let me tell you my story.

It was 4 years ago and it was my first year in college. I didn't do so well then, because lets face it, economy isn't something that is super interesting and I barely made it to class each day, because I was just too easy going about school. I mean easy going as in lazy and reluctant to learn something new. So the year passed and I had done only 3 out of 10 exams, and I needed 8 to go to the second year of college. It was the begging of the summer and I was still careless about the exams. Then in the middle of my summer vacation when I was having so much fun at some Croatian island it hit me. I needed to do 5 more exams in September to pass, and I was nowhere close to learning and studying and I had only 1 month of summer left to do all that. Then all of a sudden there was this tingly feeling in my lower arms and knees, first I thought it was because I was tanning to much and I was just sun-burned. But then I started to feel exhausted and tired, but I couldn't sleep. It was the worst feeling ever. It is like you have no control over your body and the feelings of tingliness and tiredness just wouldn't go away. So I started worrying about that and I called my mother and told her what was happening to me. And so she called a doctor and the doctor said that is common for stress. I was shocked, I was having fun, partying, enjoying the beach and the sea, how can I be under stress right? But the answer is, it all came after me, the whole studying and exams, they were with me, on my vacations. i was devastated, then I started worrying so much I was having problems breathing and was close to a panic attack. There was nothing I could do. After I came home it got better, because I took a book and started learning. So I knew I was doing the right thing and the stress slowly faded away. It all ended on 28 of September when I finally passed the 8th exam and I was officially in the second year of college. But the summer for me was ruined. Because of the damn stress and because I couldn't handle it. It was all my fault. I know that now. I could have handled it better if only I would know how. I do now. 

So that is my story of stressful time I had and my first real encounter with stress. I promised myself I never want to feel that again so I started taking some steps to get better and to learn about stress and how to prevent it. 

We all have stress and it is not necessarily a bad thing, because it can motivate us, but too much of it, constantly, can be our demise. So I beg of you, if you worry to much and stress about things, well don't, because it will only bring you pain and destruction. Stress should be a powerful driving force, not an obstacle.

Life is so much more then worrying about stuff. Life is to be enjoyed every minute of ever day. I still have to remind myself about that from time to time. But I am calm; I am at peace with myself and the decisions I make. Because if you will worry about things it wont help you, believe me I have been there. If you have a problem, either solve it if you can, but if you cant then you should not worry. I always say to myself: "We will cross the bridge when we get there." That doesn't mean you shouldn't plan or be careless, it just means that you should not worry about something you have no influence on. My mother was always worried when I got my driver`s license and I was gone for a long time, that something  bad happened to me. And then one day she said to me; "Look I trust you and I know I shouldn't worry, because no matter what, there is nothing I can do, to prevent bad things happening on the road when you are away." So here it is kids, a lesson from my mother that I still remember. You can not prevent what you can not predict! So why worry about it. 

I know many of you worry about passing exams and so on. I honestly do not anymore. Because either I study a lot and I am prepared so I give it my best and if I shall pass that would be great, but if I fail, well there is always a next time, or I don't study and I still do my best, but I know it is my fault and I am the one who has to live with it. Again, life is there to enjoy it, and there is no hurry, no rush, everything in its own time. Remember that. Everything you do, you are accountable for. So you are either your own victory or destruction. And as long as you can live with that, it is OK. You create your own destiny and you decide on your own fate. But about that I shall write in my next post. So stay tuned for more information about out fate and destiny and who is in charge of our life. 

The last thing I want to pass onto you guys is that, really do not worry too much. And if you are under stress learn how to control it and life happily ever after, because that is what life is all about - being happy.

“I promise you nothing is as chaotic as it seems. Nothing is worth your health. Nothing is worth poisoning yourself into stress, anxiety, and fear.” 

Saturday, November 16, 2013

12.entry: The Darkness Inside of Us

"If you don't have any shadows, you are not standing in the light!"

Dear readers, so in today`s blog I will talk about the so called ongoing battle between the light and the dark part of us. And also I have decided to shorten my entries since it is easier, and like that I can make more posts. So the darkness inside of us.

I know it sounds poetic when I talk about this battle, but I am sure you will understand. Because we have all felt it, the darkness around our heart, when we want to do something bad. The thing is, there is nothing wrong with having that urge to be bad, heck, it is normal. We all have light and dark inside of us. What matters is the part, when you choose which one will you act on. It is like having the devil and angel on our shoulders telling us what to do. But we must not give in into the temptation. I mean not always that is. We can afford to be bad once in while and do something egoistic as long as we don't harm the people around us. Because I have seen so much wrong things being done lately, it is on TV on the Internet, people are giving in into the darkness. If you read newspapers you know what I am talking about. People are dying by the hand of another, because of a grudge or even boredom. What has this world come to? Are we so stupid we cant even tell the difference between good and bad. Honestly you can not go and kill somebody if you are bored. Think about what you are doing first. Have we sacrificed our conscience for the sake of progress. But what kind of progress is it, if it makes us blind to see what is happening around us. We need to put an end to this foolish behaviour. We need to stand up to the bad side of us and not let it define who we are. Because once we give in, it will kill us and there is no return. Just like in Star Wars, when Anakin gave up and crossed to the dark side. In the end he found salvation but how many innocent people were hurt in the process? I know it is only a movie, but it has some great lectures about evil and good. 

So the conclude this battle, to end the war we must always chose the good, the light. Because good is our natural state. No matter the cost, we need to stop the bad things happening all around us, we must stop the bullying, the fights even the verbal abuse. We are our own salvation. I know you might think, what is he talking about, I am not doing anything wrong. But let me tell you, you might not be doing anything wrong at the moment, but somebody will maybe think twice before doing something stupid, before insulting somebody. And if it is only one person, that is enough for me. 

So accept the darkness you have and repress it, because this is the only way to stay sane and sound. 
And here is a saying and a picture for the end, just to make you think a little bit. 

“The whole course of human history may depend on a change of heart in a single, solitary, even humble individual. For it is within the soul of the individual that the battle between good and evil is waged and ultimately won or lost."                                           ― Henry David Thoreau

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